How this client overcame toxic relationships and got into her first healthy one

A case study

Hi!

When I first met J* (to protect her anonymity, I’ll only be using her first initial), she was stuck in a cycle of very bad relationships and didn’t know how to get out of the one she was in.

Not only did she finally LEAVE that relationship, she’s now in her first healthy one.

This is how we made that happen…

J invested in my 1:1 Reclaim & Recover Program because she was struggling in a trauma bond.

She kept trying to save the relationship at the expense of herself. Her partner had made her psychologically addicted to the relationship through his use of “intermittent reinforcement,” sprinkling love and affection in between bouts of abuse and manipulation.

Here’s how we transformed J from a self-sacrificing people-pleaser to a confident assured self-advocate and building a healthy relationship with a new partner:

We customized my proven 3-step system for overcoming toxic relationship dynamics to be specific for her unique challenges and goal.

We identified her challenges and defined her goal together.

We defined her challenges as:

• People-pleasing

• Relying on the relationship for her own self-worth

• Sunk-cost fallacy

We defined her goal as:

To break free from toxic relationships and restore trust in herself.

We then put these through the 3-step system:

Results:

Trading self-sacrificing for self-care led to J breaking free from toxic relationships and later, building a healthy one with a new partner.

Here’s her feedback:

Working with Tara has been liberating. I no longer feel like I need to tolerate abuse or beg in order to get love.

In the relationship I am in now, I am able to stand up for myself and voice what I need. Tara has helped me be confident that I do deserve the same love and respect I give to others.

If you want to join J and break free from toxic patterns of relating, apply to work with me here!