Protecting your relationship from outside pressures

Sep 07, 2023

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Hi!

Every relationship faces challenges from external influences, be it work stress, family dynamics, or societal pressures.

The way to deal with this? Set Boundaries. Clearly define boundaries with external parties. It ensures that your relationship remains a priority.

Here are some examples of helpful boundaries:

1. Addressing Work Stress:

To a Supervisor: "I value my work and the time I spend here, but I also need to ensure I have quality time at home. Can we discuss a more consistent work schedule or potential solutions for the overtime?"
To a Colleague: "I appreciate our collaboration, but I prefer not to discuss work-related matters after office hours. Let's catch up tomorrow during work time."

2. Navigating Family Dynamics:

To a Parent: "Mom/Dad, I understand you have concerns about our decisions, but we need to make choices that are best for our relationship. We value your input, but we also need space to grow as a couple."
To a Sibling: "I love that we're close, but there are certain matters between [Partner's Name] and me that we'd like to keep private. I hope you understand."

3. Handling Societal Pressures:

To a Friend: "I know society has certain expectations, but [Partner's Name] and I have chosen a path that works best for us. We'd appreciate it if you could support our choices."
To an Acquaintance: "Every relationship is unique, and while we respect societal norms, we also believe in doing what's best for our relationship."

4. Setting Personal Boundaries:

To a Close Friend: "I value our friendship, but there are certain aspects of my relationship with [Partner's Name] that I'd like to keep between us. I'm sure you understand the importance of privacy."
To a Neighbor: "We appreciate the community spirit, but we also value our private time as a couple. Let's set specific times for social gatherings and respect each other's personal space."

5. Addressing Intrusive Questions:

To Anyone: "We appreciate your interest, but we prefer to keep certain aspects of our relationship private. I hope you understand."

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